Todd.Hanz said:
My favorite pics of my wife is when she is not all done up, you know when she is just being herself. Women don't understand that concept, of course I don't understand women so I guess were even
Oh, I understand that concept quite well. I also understand where she's coming from quite well. Unfortunately it's not that easy to explain in a way that some people (not to be sexist)
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We do tend to be very self-critical, and our society is very visual. Men tend to be less self-critical than women. From a personal perspective, I enjoy being behind the camera far more than being in front of it. I *hate* it when in some informal setting somebody pulls out a camera, points it my way, and starts shooting!
🙁 Even though others will say "oh you look just fine", I see every flaw. I swear that for 90% of the shapshots taken of me I look either old or stoned or like I just woke up in the morning.
🙁 That's about as close to a plain English explanation as I can give. I just don't like being photographed unless I have time to be sure I look just right, and even then I often don't like the way the camera captures me.
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My suggestion is, first of all back off a bit. Don't push it. If you pull out a camera and she tells you she does not want to be photographed, then put the camera away. Wait for an opportunity when she's receptive. Then, let her know that she is in control of the situation, and that she has absolute "NO" power over anybody seeing any shot she doesn't like. Those are my suggestions.
I hope this helps. This is something I'm aware of from both sides of the lens, but it's not something that's easy to put in black and white, so to speak.
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