MikeL
Go Fish
jan normandale said:
Whoa jan, I'm going to have to disagree here. If anything Rogue should do more photography now and the first year, and set the expectation early on. That is, a low expectation for 'together time'. Then there won't be any disappointment, and when he does cut back to his normal level, he'll be seen as a saint.:angel:
A bit cynical, but hey, marriage will do it to ya!
vrgard
Well-known
Congratulations rd! I wish you and your fiance a long and happy life together. I have been married for over two decades and still think it is the best thing I've ever done. As for all the stated concerns by others about your fiance and future wife affecting your ability to enjoy photography and acquire additional camera gear, all I can say is that one of the keys to a happy and successful long term relationship is recognizing what is truly important to your partner and finding a way to support it. To do anything else is to be at odds with each other which is the beginning of the end of a committed relationship because you are no longer working together and, instead, are two individuals each trying to maximize their own position. Sorry to get so heavy but the message is actually a positive one in that if photography is truly important to you then she should support it deeply rather than fight you over it.
-Randy
-Randy
mfunnell
Shaken, so blurred
Even speaking as someone who regards himself as being retired hurt from the romance game (a term from cricket that's an apt an analogy to my current circumstance*) I find that horribly pessimistic! Don't listen to the nay-sayers. You and yours go on to a wonderful life together.Sisyphus said:
...Mike
[*]"If a batsman retires because of illness, injury or any other unavoidable cause, he is entitled to resume his innings..."
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SolaresLarrave
My M5s need red dots!
Congratulations, Liam¡
Now... you have another choice in your life. You can choose to be right forever, or to be just happy, whether you're right or not. Choose wisely, because that'll determine the rest of your life and your married life.
As for yours -truly? Who am I to be right?
Now, just as you'll show her how your cameras work, do something she likes (like attending concerts, cooking, or anything she may have as a hobby).
And, of course, my most heartfelt congratulations!
Now... you have another choice in your life. You can choose to be right forever, or to be just happy, whether you're right or not. Choose wisely, because that'll determine the rest of your life and your married life.
As for yours -truly? Who am I to be right?
Now, just as you'll show her how your cameras work, do something she likes (like attending concerts, cooking, or anything she may have as a hobby).
And, of course, my most heartfelt congratulations!
nikola
Well-known
Congrats!
Just don't try to photograph your own wedding!
Just don't try to photograph your own wedding!
juno_lau
Established
Congraduations!!!
i think you can infect her with the GAS, if you have
so you dont have to worry about your budget
i think you can infect her with the GAS, if you have
so you dont have to worry about your budget
sweathog
Well-known
Many, many congratulations!
robin a
Well-known
Congrats...........Robin
rogue_designer
Reciprocity Failure
jan normandale said:
Heh - luckily I have two excuses, one the photography is a growing part of my income. Two... she's a photographer as well.
Thanks all. We're pretty happy about it.
pesphoto
Veteran
It does help when your wife is a photographer also as is the case with me and my wife. Many happy years together!
leica M2 fan
Veteran
Congratulations RD.
Congratulations RD.
Wish you and KT much success and much Happiness.
Congratulations RD.
Wish you and KT much success and much Happiness.
pesphoto
Veteran
My parents are about to hit their 50th anniv. And I have many many relatives who have long marriages so to me marriage is for life and I dont share the same skepticism as many here seem to. I waited until I was 40 years old to find the right one and it was worth the wait!
foto_fool
Well-known
Congrats! Twenty years and two recent kids later, I and mine are still a team. She's never asked me how much my gear habit costs - god love her. She, like I am, is a dilettante photographer and has her own thing - she is more utilitarian in her worldview than I and only deals with digital these days. Best of luck you two - go out and make it work.
- John
- John