...The first was more subtle, and I actually didn't notice the banding till afterwards. I continued using the silent shutter and the rest of the shots were okay. So a bit of a mystery. ...
Not much of a mystery but there are several variables which makes it difficult to predict when ES artifacts will be problematic.
The amount of light from modulated sources plays a big role. So changing the composition can make a difference. If the modulated light is reflected, a small change in angle might be important.
The light source modulation rate and the shutter time affect the banding. So even a small change in shutter time might have an effect.
Things get more complicated when the light modulation rate changes or when there are two sources with different modulation rates. Contemporary LED venue lighting creates different colors by changing the electrical current ratios of red, green and blue LEDs using modulation. So when color changes the modulation responsible for the banding changes.
Increasing ISO increases both the signal and the noise amplitudes
after the shutter closes. So ES banding is independent of ISO.
Banding from coherent electronic camera noise is different. When ISO is low (and you do what the meter tells you to do) the exposure is high. More light hits the sensor. This means the signal-to-noise ratio is high. Now the coherent electronic noise levels are much lower than the light signal levels. The noise responsible for the banding is not digitized.
As ISO increases, exposure decreases. At some point the coherent electronic noise levels becomes similar to the light signal levels. Now the banding artifacts are digitized.