The OP's lens has been filed down and Ai'd already. Sounds like a bit too much of metal was filed off, hence the OP's concern about a possible too narrow contact area between the camera coupling dot and the lens coupling flange, and some slipping of the camera coupling dot over the lens coupling flange (if I understand it all correctly) when actuating the lens aperture ring.
I don't see the point of now sending that non-Ai lens to somebody whose purpose is to file them off to Ai' them - even if he works more cleanly and more precisely than the guy who Ai'd the OP's lens. What has been filed off already cannot be re-filed off with, that time, less of metal removed.
From what I guess by reading the opening post, it works. I would advise the OP to use his equipment and spend his money on fillms rather than keeping concerned with this.
I may change my mind with a close-up photo, though, if I saw some butchery prone to break the camera coupling tab, but this isn't what I guess from reading.