I would have to agree. If you are going to do photography - and not become discouraged and one day quit. A strong sense of self is vital to your being able to weather criticism and rejection of your work - and criticism and rejection is inevitable, unless you hide your work from the world.
I have been there - it's not a good place.
You cannot live or die based on what other people think or say about your photography. You cannot give away your power to the critics. If you do, you will not survive as a photographer. You will not endure. You will not persevere. Sooner of later, you will give up and quit.
Somehow - without even realizing I did this - I was able to strip the emotion out of the "back end" of the photography equation and infuse it into the "front end" of the equation. It may well be that I was able to do this as a result of reading and internalizing this book:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1936891026 I would highly advocate that anyone who is serious about "making it as a photographer" (however you define "making it") buy and read this book. Read it multiple times, not just once. Internalize the information presented in this book. It is vital.
What does this mean?
The "back end" of the equation is what other people say about your photography after the fact. The desire for the approval of other people is tied to this. You have to strip all the meaning out of what other people say. You have to strip all emotion out of your reaction to what other people say. Their critique, their opinion, has to be completely and totally irrelevant to you. You have to get to the point where you really don't care what other people say or think.
Your worldview has to be
"I will do this no matter what other people say or think. I will not EVER stop because a gallery said 'no, thanks' to my work."
No simply means "not yet." It does not mean "not ever." One gallery said "no, thanks." So what?? That was one gallery. There are 6500 other galleries in the U.S. One - or maybe even several - are bound to say yes. It is inevitable if you do your part.
When a gallery says "no thanks" to your work, It doesn't mean anything other than you presented your work to a gallery that for whatever reason could not appreciate your particular photographic vision. There are no absolutes for determining what constitutes "good" phtotography or "bad" photography in the world of artistic photography.
In the end, acceptance or rejection is only about the personal opinion of the particular gallery curator or owner that you presented your work to.
It's all personal opinion, nothing more. There is no failure. There is only feedback.
What does
"infusing emotion into the 'front end' of the equation" mean? It means you invest yourself emotionally in the creation of your work. You pour your heart and soul into your camera, your subject matter, your images and your finished prints. You take that craving that used to be craving for the approval of other people and transform it into craving for perfection in every facet of your images and prints: Subject selection, lens selection, exposure, composition, the instant you fire the shutter, the follow up shots, the recomposing of follow up shots, the processing of your film (or of your RAW files), the printing of your images, your signature on your images or on the matting, the matting and framing - you relentlessly pursue perfection in every facet, every detail. It means you commit yourself ten thousand percent to the realization of photographic perfection.
Of course, perfection is an extremely elusive thing. We seek it yet we hardly ever achieve it. Thank God for that! Anyone who thinks they have achieved photographic perfection is only fooling themselves. A photographer never truly "arrives" at perfection.
In any given year, the most a photographer can realistically hope for is to produce an outstanding image once every few months, along with a few images that are great, a handful that are good, a wagon-load that are okay, a train-load that are marginal and a Grand Canyon full of images that are missed shots or just plain crap. Robert Frank started a project once. He exposed over 27,000 negatives for this project. Out of 27,000 negatives, he selected just 83 images for inclusion in this project. The result was his landmark book,
Americans.
Some may think I'm full of hogwash. If so, they are welcome to that opinion because I don't really care what they think. All I can say is that the above has been what I have experienced on my journey.