I have a couple of thoughts, but I'll start the thread with the one I think most pertinent. In Photoshop, Lightroom, whatever, I usually set the Clarity slider at a higher value than I would for the same image in color. I can also boost the clarity in add-on programs like Silver Efex Pro. Almost the only time I don't do this is with pictures of my wife. In such photographs, I recommend to all forum members that they experiment with negative clarity. It's preferable to an angry spouse.
I know Lightroom and Silver Efex Pro are extremely popular for B&W digital conversion (and I do use them), but honestly, all of that is "shorthand". I've noticed that mimicking color filters w/Silver Efex is not exactly what is
supposed to be (color light passing/absorbing/response emulation), and Lightroom sometimes gives really awful noise when adjusting a particular color, whereas in Photoshop in RGB, CMYK and even sometimes Lab mode you can have exceptional control over this --if you know your theory and you know what you're doing.
With film you must know your film/developer combinations; your exposure; your temperatures. Using distilled water vs tap water. Cross-contamination issues. Your filters. With digital you must know your source sensor, your 16-bit "vs" 8-bit, your Color Management settings, RGB "vs" CMYK, your "destructive" filtering "vs" "nondestructive" filtering (i.e. applying an old-style filter vs. a "smart filter").
Now, for example, applying certain settings in Lightroom the same way on a RAW image will not give you the same results with a JPEG image, making things even more confusing, and certainly frustrating for those who couldn't think there would be any technical difference.
So, just like with film, in the digital world there isn't "one way" or "one thing".
And this is why digital B&W gets "knocked around" a lot: it certainly takes knowledge, observation and patience. People who were used to the good old days of dropping off the film and getting it printed had heart attacks when they started working with RAW files: the lab operator became you, and the Magic Dust was no longer there.
The Magic Dust is still perceived as being there by those who swear in the omnipotence of B&W film: a lot of the work is already engineered in it. With "digital", you have so many sources, so many different philosophies of engineering that "the One Workflow" is a mirage.
One thing *must* be accepted: digital, as it is, is what it is and isn't film. They're different and if you have the right equipment, the right skills and the right knowledge, you can achieve similar, if not the same look.
Making popcorn with a microwave oven is not the same as making popcorn on a gas stovetop. Even the same popcorn won't be the same if you apply the same times in different microwave ovens! And you *must* use popcorn that was produced for use in microwave ovens if you want good microwave popcorn. Popcorn is popcorn, you may say, but somebody who didn't go "who cares!" actually did their research and applied their knowledge so that people didn't have to think about which popcorn was what and where it needed to be used.
People have to learn that different things are different, or live forever disappointed.
Edit: I meant "Pixie Dust", not "Magic Dust". The idea, notwithstanding the pseudo-obscure IBM marketing reference, remains the same.