Cal, I can understand your frustration regarding the mismatch between income and affordability. I can personally understand. I hope all pans out for you. BTW, How do NYC dollars get their double value?
Many places in the USA literally have a cost of living that is half of the cost of living in NYC. Also know that our New York incomes are very high when compared to the median. Moving from New York to New Jersey makes no sense, but if I moved to Savannah GA. I could easily buy a nice home and live comforably. As you can tell I've been looking at smaller cities.
I'll give you an idea. I actually pay $2750.00 a month rent for a 650 square foot one bedroom apartment in Spanish Harlem (worst neighborhood and poorest neighborhood in Madhattan). It is a really good deal because it is a luxury apartment that is brand new and not like many old run down apartments that I've lived in that haven't been updated in decades. Originally this building of 40 units was built as a luxury condo, but the housing bubble popped while the building was under construction.
I consider my building a "ghetto buster" because literally a block away is East 100th Street where Bruce Davidson shot the poverty of this neighborhood in the late 60's, but I have a gym, bike storage, and a cyber doorman.
I got in as a fluke because the developer was forced to make it rent stabilized, but that got unwound when the building went into a condo conversion. During the conversion we were offered our apartment at an "insider price" of $550K about double the median cost of a house in the U.S.
Amazingly the units sold, including a penthouse (the larger of two) that recently sold for $1.8 million. Realize that this is in a neighborhood where 25% of the residents live in public housing, and 50% of the population gets some form of government check. Just down the block is a halfway house that use to be call the "Parole Transition Institute." LOL.
One of the reasons of why the units sold out is a 421 Tax abatement that lasts for a decade. Basically the real assesed value is not used and every two years the assesed value is increased until on the tenth year the subsidy runs out. Some wealthy foreiner bought 4 units in my building and became my new landlord. Much of the new development in NYC has these 421 Tax Abatements, and they are the time bombs I'm talking about.
I decided not to get gamed, and decided to keep my ammo dry. Eventually bad things will happen due to unintended consequences and many will be ruined.
BTW I have been actively a gentrifier in NYC. In the 70's I lived in Soho one summer when it was just artists camping out in warehouses. I helped gentrify Greenpoint, Williamsburg, and Long Island City before they were conquered by hipsters.
Never been afraid of danger, crime or living in abandoned places, but I don't want to do that when I'm retired, getting old, and vulnerable.
Cal