The non-photographer's spouse says...

[filmdood]

So, Addy 101 is in what we say? Is he in charge of the whole Internet, or maybe the whole world? Did it occur to you she might have had other qualities and the remark about the photos in the wall didn't come until we were married for a couple of years? I think you should limit your remarks to cream cheese and tulips.

 

[uhoh7]

She asks me - Why don't you ever take pictures in color? I have been shooting color for the past 25 years and only in the last couple of years found that I really love black and white even if converted digitally.

Maybe it's a good question 🙂

IMHO a compelling color image is harder. No novelty.

 

[f16sunshine]

My friends get tired of the camera always present. In the end they all are happy with the images I send or print for them.
My Girlfriend is a great photographer. So is my mom who has had a lot of fun learning more advanced techniques. She's even adopted the Ricoh GR from me 🙂
I think this subject could be anything that "distracts" our attention and/or resources that might be directed at our significants and friends.
It's not photography specific. 🙂

 

[Roger Hicks]

So, Addy 101 is in what we say? Is he in charge of the whole Internet, or maybe the whole world? Did it occur to you she might have had other qualities and the remark about the photos in the wall didn't come until we were married for a couple of years? I think you should limit your remarks to cream cheese and tulips.

Alternatively, you might consider taking a greater interest in photography. Why did it take two years before your wife realized that it mattered to you? Either you weren't very interested or she was very, very slow. Quite apart from the incredibly weak anti-Netherlands slur, you really ought to try "cream cheese and tulips" yourself. You may find that they are more intellectually, artistically and emotionally challenging than you can handle.

Cheers,

R.

 

[Roger Hicks]

. . . So, don't post what your significant other said to you that made you realize they have no appreciation for your hobby which you are passionate about, but tell us how they support you!

YES!

Cheers,

R.

 

[doolittle]

For the life of me I cannot think of a dutch cream cheese. I am sure they exist - maybe a limited shelf life prevents their availability in Ireland. I do like dutch hard cheeses.

It's always going to be a bit tricky when your significant other doesn't share your interest in a particular hobby. It's best to give them the benefit of the doubt and be slow to take offence at careless comments. Consider that it may be a symptom of general dissatisfaction in the relationship or even life in general - in which case consider if there is something that could be done to help (could be as simple as a bunch of tulips or helping them discover an interest).

 

[BlackXList]

I'm very lucky in that while mine doesn't partake, she's very supportive of my photography.

She has told me that when we first started talking, and I mentioned photography she thought "oh great, another plastic camera whiz" (lomographer), which is now a term we both use.

Her mum said something that I initially thought "HEY!?" about, "she shoots like you, without thinking" but I realised that she was talking about my street stuff, and she was meaning how reactive it is, not that there's no thought involved, so I didn't get sensitive haha (plus she was talking about Mary Ellen Mark at the time, and its impossible to be annoyed being in the same sentence as someone that good).

 

[zuiko85]

My wife doesn't know a f-stop from a door stop but she does know that dinking around with old cameras gives me pleasure. She seldom raises an eyebrow when she sees a small charge on the card for some film or chemicals or batteries. When I unloaded some stuff at a camera show she came along and helped and got a big kick out of the whole thing.

Oh, one more thing. She takes better pictures with her i-phone than I do with my old film cameras. She has an eye, I'm Mr. Techno-man with no more artistic talent than your standard house brick.

 

[Moto-Uno]

^ And that is the painful truth as I know it !
Peter

 

[kxl]

My wife's very photogenic so I take a lot of pictures of her. Her primary complaint? Too many solo images of her and not enough of us together, especially when traveling -- you know, the typical tourist snaps.

That, and: "you have more bags than I do."

 

[Richard G]

This was a recurring theme in the worst words in photography thread of a couple of years ago,

http://www.rangefinderforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=95524

with my favourite on this theme being:

Wife while on a trip:

I don't feel like stopping just so you can photograph that. It's not interesting.

If you wanted to use that other camera why did you leave it it the car?

Why are you are wasting money taking so many photos of the same thing?

What, you're changing rolls again? How many rolls are you using on this trip? What does that cost?

 

[Paulbe]

Roger--since you and Frances have supported each other totally through books and many other things photographically--you may not be totally qualified to chime in on this one! 🙂 🙂
Love your books, BTW. That's you and Frances...
Paul

 

[wjlapier]

Mine doesn't really care. Doesn't know anything about cameras, let alone film.

Tonight. I need to move my film from the freezer. Doesn't care, just get rid of it.

 

[lynnb]

My wife's very photogenic so I take a lot of pictures of her. Her primary complaint? Too many solo images of her and not enough of us together, especially when traveling -- you know, the typical tourist snaps.

Keith - a selfie stick is the answer! 🙂🙂🙂

 

[icebear]

I tried for a long time to get my better half use my M9. She did get along with it but never warmed up to using it, consequently just the technicalities came in the way of taking pictures due to lack of experience. Additionally wearing glasses made focusing slow and difficult.

I traded in some film M's and got her a Leica Q. Today we spent in NYC almost all day and she took 300+ shots. She obviously enjoyed taking photographs because she was able to capture what she wanted fast enough. And I am surprised about the framing and composition, filling a 28mm frame and not ending up with lot's of empty foreground or disturbing objects in the frame isn't that easy. Of course post processing these needs to be taken care of by myself but when I was done, she joined to see all pictures. Usually she asked for a lot to be deleted, as she wasn't satisfied with how they turned out, not this time. I used my MM and although being very impressed by the IQ of the Q, she immediate said of the black & white MM files: "...now that is even better, so much more 3 dimensional"

Wanna get you spouse interested and enjoying photography, get her a Q.
Highly recommended😀

 

[JChrome]

Wanna get you spouse interested and enjoying photography, get her a Q.
Highly recommended😀

Maybe this should be a thread about how to convince your significant other to use your gear 🙂.

I am on vacation and brought my first film camera, a Nikon FM with 35mm lens for my wife to use while I use my Fuji GL. She's getting better at it and always asks me these fun little questions about metering. It took some convincing to have her use it. She keeps saying now "I'm just worried they will all turn out like crap!" To which I reply, "How is it any different with digital?"


www.stillthrill.com

 

[photomoof]

The title just makes no sense in light of the responses.

The non-photographer's spouse says...

What has your significant other said to you that made you realize they have no appreciation for your hobby which you are passionate about?
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Was the OP trying to say, "What does the non-photographer spouse say to the photographer?"

"The non-photographer's spouse" -- is the photographer (who is a member of the RFF).

 

[Roger Hicks]

The title just makes no sense in light of the responses.

The non-photographer's spouse says...

What has your significant other said to you that made you realize they have no appreciation for your hobby which you are passionate about?
​

Was the OP trying to say, "What does the non-photographer spouse say to the photographer?"

"The non-photographer's spouse" -- is the photographer (who is a member of the RFF).

Dear Fred,

True. But I think we were all being generous, because the meaning was clear enough, even though the title wasn't.

Cheers,

R.

 

[Mcary]

Earlier this week.

"You spend too much money on camera stuff"

Me " I spend more money on the cats than I do on camera stuff"

 

[JP Owens]

My bride of 37 years has no interest in photography or cameras. But I was a photographer when we met and she understood it was an everyday part of my life. Has been supportive of my photography, whether B&W or color; and, has never cared what equipment I've bought. We don't have any photos on our walls, only geometric abstract paintings, art both of us love.