I always joke that a newspaper photo editor will always, always pick the worst photo you give them. Sadly I have found that true more often than not recently.
I've worked as an editor a lot more than a photographer. Your experience suggests that either your purposes and your editors are not the same, that your editor is a bad one (entirely possible) or that you are not a great editor of your own work.
Finding a good editor to work with is really important.
If you're working in an environment where your work will be edited by someone else there is often no choice. And a good editor will only mostly agree with the photographer if the photographer is an excellent editor of their own work.
Most photographers are poor to execrable editors of their own work. They often mistake shots that were hard to get, or with which they have some emotional link as better than ones that show things better, or more plainly, or in a way that's better for their audience. They are very rarely ruthless enough, and even the best photographers are poor at admitting they missed the shot or didn't get enough material. Enthusiastic amateurs usually get caught up with what gear they used or some other aspect of process that's irrelevant if the shot isn't right.
A good editor will work with his/her photographers to make their work better over time, and discuss with them where the hits and misses are and why, ameliorating all of these problems. A bad editor can make things worse, and turn a pretty good photographer into a bad one.
But understanding your own work is a really fundamental part of being a photographer in my opinion...
Understanding your work is only a third of the equation. Understanding the publishing environment is at least as important, and that entails the final third - understanding the audience.
Ultimately, your goal is understanding how to work in a way that gets both what you and your editor want.
Marty