Hi Roger,
I see no reason for a never ending discussion... I mean both of us have the right to an opinion, and instead of what you said, "explain, convince me, or think how I think!" I consider communication is a bit an uthopy, and when we both say "A" at the start of our statements, "A" means different things to both of us even if we try to imagine both "A's" are exactly the same and a good basement to our discussion... But I'll try to answer one last time for courtesy...
You say: "Highlight 1: No. That's the point. You never know how much darker the shadows will be. One stop? Five stops? If it's five, well, bad luck." OK, I understand you mean if you have a scene correctly exposed for medium and high values, you consider it wrongly exposed if you don't give enough texture to the shadows... As I said, me too, but mainly on direct sun scenes where, as I stated previously, I judge the shades are visually interesting. In my opinion, and to me it's OK yours might be different, in most photography shadows don't matter at all in what an image gives: they don't affect what a photograph produces in our soul.
You say: "Highlight 2: Studio advertising; travel; products; food; step by step; all professionally. Across maybe 30 years. In other words, enough to have a fair idea of what I am talking about." OK, it seems you've used slide film and metered for it... Haven't you found situations where incident metering gives a reading that's below optimal? I have, as many others. I was even taught about it... If you haven't seen that happen, sincerely it's a miracle. Why would other metering mediums exist if incident metering is a perfect absolute for every light situation?
You say: "Highlight 3: It's not an opinion. It's a statement of fact. You have yet to explain the difference between reading the light falling on one defined surface (a grey card) and another (a translucent "artificial highlight"). Please do not confuse facts and opinions." OK, this is about considering or not all metering mediums are the just same thing... Couldn't it be you the one that's confusing facts and opinions? I mean maybe you're not as absolute and perfect as an incident meter...😉 Roger, seriously I see big differences between them... To me it's not the same metering the light that hits the scene, than metering the light reflected by the scene... One of the reasons is that an incident meter meters, inside its hemisphere, several different lights coming from different angles, and promedy that, in a way that is not the same as when a spot meter considers the lights that are being indeed actually sent to hit film...
Why don't we leave this here like this: I accept you're a great photographer who cares more about detailed shadows than I do, and who knows better than I do how to achieve it, while I'm an inferior photographer who cares less about shadow detail, being it possible that I don't know how to get it.
Cheers,
Juan