what do you tell your wife?

FrankS

FrankS

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So, do you guys tell your wives/significant other everything including each and every photographic aquisition? Is she the holder of the purse strings? Does she understand when you explain why a particular item is needed/wanted/a good deal? Does she veto your requests?

I'm just wondering how it works for other married folks. I sometimes "shield" my wife from the truth. As Jack Nicholson once said: "Truth? You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!"
 
I think I use the same approach as you Frank.

I simply make sure there's money for the non-photographic projects first...THEN I look at photo-/camera purchases.

As long as the two don't clash - and as long as the non-camera projects/purchases are prioritized then there is often 'no reason to tell' :)
 
There is no way that I could 'shield' my wife from any latest acquisition! Her all seeing eyes miss nothing in the house! :) All I could do is to tell her that this will be the last item to be bought! It is the lamest excuse I could think of.
 
I have a special arrangement with the UPS deliveryman. He leaves my packages in the bushes.
 
I follow a don't ask, don't tell policy. I keep things under control so that she has, not wants her stuff, and I try to do the same for myself.
 
One of the advantages of having lost count of the number of cameras one has (over 50) is that a new one doesn't stand out. All types are represented: LF field/press/rail, MF slr/tlr/rangefinder, and 35mm slr/rangefinder.

I use money made from weddings and portraits (as opposed to my real job) to aquire more stuff, but even this is a contentious issue sometimes especially when I can't argue that I need something to further my sideline business.
 
backalley photo said:
i think you guys are brave talking about this stuff in public!
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I got a good idea from this thread. I plan on having a cup of coffee ready for the UPS guy when he swings by tomorrow, we need to talk about some special delivery instructions.
 
backalley photo said:
i think you guys are brave talking about this stuff in public!
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The following may not be pollitically correct butI believe it nonetheless:

I think that a lot of married men face similar "challenges". Males and females are different physically (yah!) and psychologically (darn!). Males typically are less communicative (to their own detriment.)

A like-minded group like this (rangefinder forum) is a good place for men to get in touch with their "feminine side" and talk about issues we have in common. Don't be afraid of this opportunity to do so.
 
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She never asks. I never volunteer. She is so used to seeing me with a camera glued to my head, I don't think she ever notices if its a rangefinder, SLR, or view camera!

Cool!
 
so frank, just what do you do for a day job?

joe

oh and just for the record guys, this is one of the many reasons i enjoy my life without a partner.

j
 
When I retired early (I was a corporate burnout) I told my wife that I wouldn't use "our" money to feed my various habits. Until our recent move I was fortunate enough to have a part time job in a pro camera store that provided "my" money. Anticipating being unemployed after the move, I sold everything that I thought was surplus to my needs/likes and built a cushion. When that's gone we may have to renegotiate.

The only time that didn't totally level with her was years ago I collected Colt National Match pistols and more than once when she asked me if I'd gotten a new gun, I'd hold up a blue .45 with walnut grips and say, "No, honey, you've seen this one before."
 
Joe, if I told you what I do for a real job, you'd just start to hate me. Everyone hates teachers, right?

Gerry, since all of my camera aquisitions are used cameras, if my wife ever asks me, "Is that a new camera?" I can answer honestly, "No. It's an old camera."
 
Frank, I'm a teacher. I teach Spanish and Spanish American literature at the college level, and, most of the time, my wife doesn't care much whether I have a new camera or not. One day she told me she was waiting for this "photography" thing of mine to run out eventually.

However, when she wants to convince me of going with her somewhere she'll inevitably say: "You can take your cameras with and get good shots."

Gotta love her... :)
 
I taught English in a private language school near Osaka, Japan during my first teaching year after graduating from Queens University Faculty of Education in Kingston, Ontario. Since then I've taught elementary school (grades 2 to 5) near Toronto, Ontario for 17 years. I've taught a photography night course at the college level and also a private B+W printing course. One of the things I love about photography is that I'm still learning myself, which I think is essential for a teacher to be doing.
 
backalley photo said:
and you thought i wouldn't like you cause of that?

it's because i don't use capital letters isn't it?;)

joe
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It's been a tough last 9 years here in Ontario with a government that did a lot of teacher-bashing so I guess I'm just on the defensive. I wouldn't choose a different career though, I feel it's decent and honourable. I have children myself and I try to be the kind of teacher that I hope my children have.

As for the lack of capital letters, no problem, the most important thing is to communicate your ideas clearly and you have been most successful in that! It's kind of funny, I'm a really poor speller!
 
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frank, i feel your pain!
i live in alberta, land of the oil baron and the p.c. party. i'm starting to take their policies personally.
health care, teachers and the list goes on. if you ever watch the news and see a demonstration against the provincial government - look for a short, fat bald guy!! oh yeah, he'll be carrying a canon p with him.

joe
 
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