What does your other think about you photographing the opposite sex.

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How does your wife, girlfriend, husband, or boyfriend feel about you taking photographs of the opposite sex? Last week I took a posed photograph of 4 young ladies. BTW it's in the gallery. I liked the way they we're dressed in that 50's kinda look. When my wife saw it the first thing out of her mouth was "What's this all about" I sat trying to find the words to say & feeling guilty, & really there was nothing to feel guilty about! I saw an opportunity for a photograph & I took it. I've been married to her for over 20 years so I think she is over it now. :D Got any stories or advise, or are you just plain lucky.
 
I imagine it would depend upon the location and the level of intimacy as well as my motivation for taking the photograph.

I don't believe my wife would have too many issues unless I wanted to do something she felt was odd, she's pretty open minded and we have a lot of trust. :). If she felt uncomfortable with what I had done or wanted to do, even after explaining it, the I simply wouldn't do it (or do it again!).

In life though it is easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission. :)

(I guess also, I would always think, Would I feel uncomfortable or unhappy if SHE were doing what I am intending to do, or have done? If the answer is yes, then its not really right to do it IMHO)
 
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If you're talking about "Heavy Rebel Weekend", I'm thinking (hoping) she was just joshing you. I mean a photo of 4 women standing in the middle of the road, broad daylight, and a bunch of people standing around watching?
 
Photographing an attractive girl if I had a partner, which I don't currently, shouldn't be a problem IMO. Even if your intentions are somewhat voyeuristic theres a big difference between voyeurism and adultery. Partners of people who work in the sex industry or are are involved in the creation of pornography amaze me that they can get there heads around that ... but a lot do.

So what's in a pic ... nothing! :p
 
Thardy said:
If you're talking about "Heavy Rebel Weekend", I'm thinking (hoping) she was just joshing you. I mean a photo of 4 women standing in the middle of the road, broad daylight, and a bunch of people standing around watching?
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She wasn't joshing but she wasn't real upset about it either. I think it mainly comes from years spent watching soaps.:D
 
Is it Heavy Rebel Weekend? I count 5 women there, not 4. And I too hope your wife was joking/making fun, cause there is absolutely nothing in that pic to be worried about. I sure hope so at least. ;)
 
My mistake. It is 5. See that proves I wasn't lusting.:D I think she knows it's just a fun photo, but her statement did catch me a bit off guard. From dating women here in the south they seem to all have a more jealous streak in them than from women I dated up north. I was stationed in Philadelphia for 2 years & the women seemed more free spirited.
 
I did this one as a kind of hip shot in Cologne. Later, she saw it in my screen saver and loved it. Which, of course, leads me to think she doesn't care too much.

Or maybe that's what she wants me to think... :confused:

Here's the pic. She liked it a lot...

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I have been a photographer way before any of my relationships. I have always taken photographs of any one or any subject. When I was younger I only photographed beautiful women now I photograph older beautiflu women. I've gotten older and so have my subjects.
I never had a conflict with any of my ladies.
Walter
 
SolaresLarrave said:
I did this one as a kind of hip shot in Cologne. Later, she saw it in my screen saver and loved it. Which, of course, leads me to think she doesn't care too much.

Or maybe that's what she wants me to think... :confused:

Here's the pic. She liked it a lot...

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I would of been hard tempted not to of taken that shot. Thats a lovely shot indeed!
 
I'm ashamed to admit I took this pic purely because I thought the girl on the right was gorgeous!

So spank me! :p

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Galfriend says: "if you took such a picture? What was that unfortunate quote from Jesse Jackson the other day?"

(I kid, folks, I kid. Mostly.)

I suppose my M.O. is that I can be so rapt by female beauty that the thought of picking up the camera to "'capture' some of that" (most of the time, anyway) seems sort of vulgar, as if I could capture lightning in a bottle or the like. Sometimes, by happenstance, I can render that on film. But I'm too busy with other photographic thoughts to pursue this too heavily.

And I have enough of a time getting the gal I'm with "just right". (In both my eyes, and, of course, hers.)

Bonnie and her Olympus, Coney Island, last summer.
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Those who took pictures before met their other side, always can say "I did it before and you knew it".


"I took it because I liked play of light" is most worthless explanation, I think.
 
Hmmmm. Well......

Hmmmm. Well......

Being Androgynous... I tend not to think in terms of opposite sexes.
Being Celibate for quite some time.... no one of my friends, close or otherwise, are concerned about me having international hands. You know... Russian Hands and Roman Fingers.
Being agnostic, none of these concerns affect my spirituality.
Life is so much simpler than when I was young, arrogant, selfish, horny and righteous.

Now, can we just shoot some pictures, please?
 
She likes to look at the street shots I take of other girls. Yet, I must say that she always look better than the girls on my shots ;)
 
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