This is the kind of sh#t my ex wife pulled on me.....she had dropped and broken various items belonging to me (and important to me) - it happened quite regularly. Then would refuse to even apologize. In fact when I chastised her for her actions, and for not apologizing, she would look me in the eye and said "I did not break it, it must have been you" This happened regularly - even when I was present at the time and saw her do it. Then she would turn and walk away leaving me fuming. Odd thing is we were not arguing at the time (but were afterwards of course). Cultural differences (she is Russian)? Sociopath? Narcissist? F#cked in the head? Still not sure. If you are doing better than this then you are doing better than I did. After feeling used and abused for years the best I could do in desperation in the end was to go to her wardrobe take out a great big pair of scissors and turn a couple of her favourite outfits into cleaning rags while she was away for a few days. Then I could say "I did not do it - it was not me. It must have been you." I guess I can smile about it now but it was not funny at the time.😡
Ahhhh that confession was cathartic.