An awful tragedy.
I realise the offending 'black humour' comment has been removed but it reminds me of how little empathy an embassy representative showed for a friend's black humour when discussing colleagues killed in a plane crash. The officials were horrified at some of the seemingly cold comments my friend made, but they failed to recognise that he had spent several days looking over his own friends' body parts in the morgue and sifting through their shredded personal effects.... he'd been there trying to find out information and make progress, while they sat behind desks.
Black humour is OK in my book, even when clumsy and inappropriate. It just comes out and, while superficially 'bad' sometimes, is the product of not being able to connect, or deliberately disconnecting, from awful events. After that plane crash I remember lots of people who b1tched about how everyone else was handling things, saying, or doing but who themselves failed to lift a finger and do anything useful.
