Seconded. In most good pictures it is at best very secondary, and it is often unnoticeable, which is as it should be. It's like the fashion designer who said that if a woman wore one of the dresses he had designed, and people said, "What a beautiful dress," he had failed, but if they said, "What a beautiful woman," he had succeeded.
If bokeh is one of the first things you notice, the chances are that either it's not a good picture, or you are pointlessly obsessed with it.
EDIT: Brilliant idea for a thread, by the way -- I wish I'd thought of it! -- and one of the few polls in which I take any interest whatsoever.
Cheers,
R.