So if someone outbids you and then withdraws the bid, are you still required to pay?
I tend to bid the maximum I am willing to pay and then let it ride. I think shilling is only effective if you are prone to getting into bidding wars.
Yes, the next highest bidder is required to pay.
In my case I was the only bidder, so there was no demand for the item. So, I while I understand the seller's thought process (that it shouldn't matter because I won the auction), I was going to be the winner anyway. He had a sale. He just didn't like the price and wanted more. I felt I shouldn't have to pay a shilled-up price, regardless of my maximum bid, because there was nothing driving the price up (besides the seller's shilling).
Seller's have lots of methods to ensure that they get a certain price for an item (setting starting bids, reserves, BIN, etc.). Shilling is an ebay offense, which obviously doesn't mean squat to ebay. So, it's just another thing that buyers have to protect themselves against.
I don't try to get "steals", just a fair price on an item. Going forward with ebay, I'll be a lot more careful about when and how I use the max bid feature, because I think shilling is fairly common. There's a difference between what I'm willing to pay and what I want to pay. I'm willing to pay $3/gallon of gas, but I'd rather not. If the market is at $2/gallon, it's foolish to pay $3/gallon.
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