Ken Ford said:
I don't think George is going to be doing much of anything any more...
I hope the contrary.
Basically in my opinion, aggressive tones at RFF come by influence of the world as it is. And our capability or not to discrimate between the all aggressive surrounding and the situations in which we must be alert about it and not let the aggressive mood be transfered to, our families for example, or RFF.
By the same coin, in its reversed side, what happens when we are offended at home ? do we slap back ? do we swallow in silence ? do we leave home ?
Since home is very much each one's domain, I will say what I do. First in extreme cases, in which I am in a weak state of mind and I am offended OR feel I am, I may leave the salon for the balcony to smoke a cigarette.
But when I am in a balanced strong mood and then my beloved daughter out of the blue turns aggressive, I ussually rebuke her with a good dose of humour, ridiculizing her mood, driving her a bit nuts for her aggression not being taken seriously. Mainly I educate by example. Sometimes I have a small talk.
With kids it is easy, but with kids of big size and advanced age we find it rather problematic and not as easy. Therefore we kill each other at the street without thinking twice. Nevertheless the princinple is the same.
If our good friend and constant contributor leaves our forum, he will only be extending further the original swing of the offense. And I am not sure at all that the member calling George idea "nosense" meant to say YOU SPEAK NONSENSE THEREFORE GET OUT OF THE FORUM !
But obviously the offender was not aware of more than a lot of things. And certainly if I was present at the thread, I would have a lenghty prived exchange with this guy, who I cannot identify since George deleted the thread.
I have faith in George overcoming this disgusting episode, and no one will harm by showing his appreciation to him and calling for his renewed contribution.
But the real issue is what we will do next time any of us becomes offended. Will our good folks present at the thread keep quiet in order not to stain themselves, or will they take an ACTIVE attitude towards the offender, via prived talk first, and public condemnation second, in case the offender doesn't retract.
Those are in my opinion the options we have, before moderators take action.
Cheers,
Ruben
