Hoping for a smooth transition Cal. As an European, Madhattan was amazing and shocking, but I felt I would go insane moving there. Well, as if that were an option of course because no one gives apartments in the central large cities 😛
Grew up always being an hour from the city. Got used to it. The ideal IMO is being able to walk or cycle to work (2-5mi?), once it is down to living in suburbs, the hour commute has to be accepted. Yes, pick your poison.
I find smaller cities rather nice to live, there is stuff to do, yet it's not too overhelming on some senses.
Life keeps throwing classmates and coworkers that are local to cities and it's quite a funny thing. Some were baffled at someone coming from "that far away", others show lack of endurance. I am used to having to spend the whole day without going back home. Know that once I am going home, I'm not going back to the city.
Never had the privilege of living in a large city. It seems an alien concept to live central.