Joe:
I'll come out of the closet here and admit to owning a DSLR. It's a Pentax istDS. It may be the smallest DSLR body out there, which I like. I carried my son's huge Canon around for a week and promptly gave it back to him.
I've had the DS for over a year, have used it constantly, beat the hell out of it backpacking, carrying it while riding dirtbikes along the Mexican border, shot weddings with it, did streetshooting, portraits, product photography, etc. Nary a problem.
Image results? Quite good with the kit lens (18-55) which is something like 27mm to about 70-75mm. It's an OK lens, but when I screw on one of my many M42 Super Takumar lenses ($20 adapter) life gets much better. They turn into manual presets, but so what. You set the DS on aperture preferred, focus at maximum aperture, then stop down to what you think you want, release the shutter.
My Takumar SMC 300 turns into a 450 on the DS and gets me into respectable bird photography. The very nice 50/1.4 turns into a 75 and does surprisingly good portraits, but the 105/2.8 (you have to step back a bit) works well also.
My point here is that all of this wonderful old glass is readily available and at small price (perhaps not for much longer, though, as folks figure it out).
Pentax currently has a great pancake 40 and the reviews suggest the 16-45 and 50-200 are worth owning.
Last October I bought the Pentax DS and kit lens from Willoughby's delivered to the door for $748, which wasn't a lot money in the DSLR world at the time..
The new, about-to-be-released 10D (about $900) has in-body shake reduction, so I would assume any lens will benefit from it, and might also solve your problem. No one likes to look around for something to brace oneself against in order to take a picture.
Regards,
Ted