Spouse appreciation thread...

LOL, I had to say it someday in my life... Sorry it was here on RFF... But it feels great winning a prize at last!

Cheers,

Juan
 
I hear you, bro. I'll never get married, and I avoid women like the plague. My lawyer told me that a man who gets married in the USA is like a chicken who supports Colonel Sanders (he was the founder of KFC, a restaurant chain that specializes in fried chicken!). The laws here are extremely anti-male; a woman can marry you and sleep with every man in town then divorce you and take everything you own. In some states, though not mine, they can even take a large percent of your future earnings! I hope its not so bad in Spain.

The lawyer who said that to me is a woman!!
 
Chris, she took my two newborn twins, and I can't have them for lots of years because they're small and need their mother, and I must send her half my salary every month while they grow up.

And she's the best woman I met. Others behaved worse.

Now I just want to sing the blues, Lord have mercy...

Cheers,

Juan
 
gentlemen, with all due respect, even here in the US, where, as Chris rightly opines, the deck is sometimes rather stacked against men in family/divorce court, one simple solution is to settle down with someone you actually like and to stay together. I am generally as cynical as the next RFF'r, but, having celebrated my 27th wedding anniversary two weeks ago, I must say that marriage can sometimes work out well. I know I'm lucky in this regard. I can't recommend this for everyone, but it has been good to me.

to get back on topic: that Hadley bag is great. I've had one for about five years now. enjoy it in good health and be nice to your wife. as Juan, Chris and Joe have pointed out, you're a lucky man for reasons that go far beyond a camera bag.
 
ouch! you've come to the right place to sing the blues.
Juan Valdenebro said:
Chris, she took my two newborn twins, and I can't have them for lots of years because they're small and need their mother, and I must send her half my salary every month while they grow up.

And she's the best woman I met. Others behaved worse.

Now I just want to sing the blues, Lord have mercy...

Cheers,

Juan
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Chriscrawfordphoto said:
I hear you, bro. I'll never get married, and I avoid women like the plague. My lawyer told me that a man who gets married in the USA is like a chicken who supports Colonel Sanders (he was the founder of KFC, a restaurant chain that specializes in fried chicken!). The laws here are extremely anti-male; a woman can marry you and sleep with every man in town then divorce you and take everything you own. In some states, though not mine, they can even take a large percent of your future earnings! I hope its not so bad in Spain.

The lawyer who said that to me is a woman!!
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Chris, American culture is rather widespread now, you can see obese people everywhere.:)

Happy birthday Ari, keep the glass `half full'.
regards
CW
 
Well isn't THIS a jolly thread! I guess I didn't have my irony radar turned on when I read the title... :rolleyes:

Enjoy the bag, Ari!
 
Strange, I had a conversation tonite with my long time girl friend about this very subject - Marriage and spouses. I told her I have no use for marriage and I doubt I ever will, she was of course disappointed as usual when this subject comes up, but that's how it goes when you hang out with a non-comformist like me. Anyone who is happIiy married after being together more than 14 years, should consider themselves to be very luck as surveys repeatedly have shown that only 25 percent of marriages that last longer than 14 years are happy marriages!!!!!!! and the rest are just staying together for the money or kids etc............and I have always said 'if the institution of marriage was a horse, it would be shot a long time ago!!!" Enjoy the Bag!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kievman
 
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Well, to counter the gloom, I'll join Kermaier in spousal appreciation! While she doesn't gift me photo items, and I don't give her stuff related to her hobbies, we're tolerant of each other gifting ourselves! And we're still best friends and partners after almost 33 years.
 
Frances and I met 29 years ago last Friday (May 14 1981) and our 28th wedding anniversary is next month. After that length of time you don't really have 'his' and 'hers': just 'ours', though (for example) the Zeiss 18/4 and SW are 'hers' (she uses them far more) and the M9 and Thambar are 'mine'. The MP is 'ours'. So is our house, though the Land Rover is 'mine' and the little Marbella is 'hers', based on who uses them most.

Frances is a very good photographer in her own right, though we tend to use different cameras and lenses (though our M-fit kit allows us to borrow each other's lenses). We do things together and we own things together. For example, we've just come back from a week in the South of France, where she was soaking in spas (good for her PPR, but they quickly pall for me, not least because I dehydrate quickly) and I was taking pictures.

Oh; and I'm still friends with my first wife, though the marriage didn't work out (about 3 years).

I don't think I could have done better than Frances, though of course I think she could. She feels the same about me. There's a big difference between marriages that don't work out, if you were married to a decent human being, and hating all women because you didn't marry a decent human being the first time around.

Frances has a theory that too many people go into marriage expecting to break up, and with unpleasant stereotypes about the opposite sex: "All men are..."/"All women are..." But none of us is "All men..." or "All women..." unless we buy into the same stereotypes. To avoid all relationships is to buy into those stereotypes and to deprive yourself of enormous potential happiness.

Edit: and we both use Billingham bags. When I read this to Frances, she laughed, and said, "In fact, the Billinghams we bought just after we were married are wearing out. The marriage is doing a lot better than they are."

Cheers,

R.
 
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Congrats on the bag, your woman sounds like a keeper!

Also, I will never get married thanks to the "optimistic" outlook you older guys have provided for me ;)
 
Wow some thread. I hope you enjoy your new Billingham bag, they look so good. I have been shacked up for over two decades to a wonderful women and that was after coming out of a divorce. I don't blame males for being gun shy with the laws the way they are today. Don't let that ruin your future. The reason divorces are so costly is that they are worth every penny in the long run.

Bob
 
A further thought:

Although I'm in favour of marriage generally, there was an extra dimension for Frances and me. We HAD to get married. Not for the traditional reason, but because she's American and I'm British: two of the most arrogant, poisonous, unimaginative, suspicious and unpleasant immigration authorities in the world. 'Love' is not a concept they understand.

Cheers,

R.
 
My wife (we are married for 2 years, but we are 11 years together) allowed me to get my 5th camera with a weak promise that I will sell my 4th.

Onto the serious note - I think there is a lot to Rogers' words. I think people too often marry to gain something rather then trying to give or share something. Way too often we are just too selfish ...
 
Bingley said:
Well isn't THIS a jolly thread! I guess I didn't have my irony radar turned on when I read the title... :rolleyes:

Enjoy the bag, Ari!
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Holy crap! I had no irony in mind when I posted this. I just remembered having seen a poll here a while back about spouses attitudes toward photography. My impression of my wife's attitude was along the lines of "grudging tolerance, as long as the camera mostly stays pointed at our kids". I just wanted to update that with a shout-out of thanks for a thoughtful birthday present.

Folks, this makes me disappointed, and I'm now sorry I started the thread.

Is there a way for me to delete it?

Ari
 
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