A couple of things. You did not mention which Canonet you are using. I don't recall the others, but the QL III 17 set the aperture if using the dedicated flash (or any other of the same guide number).
Don't worry about auto. In the locations you mentioned, such as a restaurant, if there isn't a similar background close to your subject, the auto setting is likely to be fooled anyway.
My reccommendation would be a flash similar to this one
http://cgi.ebay.com/Sunpak-Auto-322...ptZDigital_Camera_Flashes?hash=item2303962bb8 on ebay. Sunpak, and probably others, made more than one line like this. Go manual, and from the calculations provided on the flash (see the ebay photo), set the aperture for the correct exposure at the distance you are shooting at. This is small enough to carry easily with a small camera like the QL 17. It isn't a peice of the sun, like say a Sunpak 544, but should give you what you say you are looking for. Notice that it also lays on its side, and swivels. Perfect for bounce from walls or low ceilings.
I have more than one of these as I find them very easy to use and powerful enough. An added advantage is the power settings, which the calculator handles for you as well.