fgianni said:
Roger, while your point seems very reasonable, there is still one thing that bugs me.
If you allow businesses to turn down customers on this sort of grounds, where do you stop?
A photographer can turn down a gay couple because they are gay, then a pub turns down a black customer because he is black, next a minimarket shows a sign saying "jews do not need to enter" because the owner does not like jews.
Where do you draw the line? Who should be allowed to turn down who, and who should not?
Dear Francesco,
I completely agree, but here we have a classic 'slippery slope' or 'bald man' argument. The latter, for those who are not familiar with it, postulates a man with a full head of hair. Remove one hair. Remove another. At the beginning, he is not bald; at the end he is. When does he become bald?
Let's take another example than the gay couple. I've only ever photographed one black friend, not very successfully (I found him hard to light). If someone black asked me to take their portrait, I'd not be racist to say, "Sure, but you might want to find someone who is better at it."
Nor would I be as comfortable trying to photograph a Jewish wedding as a Christian one, because I've been to ten or twenty of the former (I avoid weddings if I can) and none of the latter. It's a question of knowing what to expect. Sure, if one of my Jewish friends REALLY wanted me to photograph their wedding (at my age and theirs, unlikely), I could mug up on it; but it still wouldn't be as easy as a Christian wedding.
On the other hand, the establishing of a gay civil partnership is still sufficiently novel that I don't think there are many expectations for the photography: it's much more a question of what the participants want and I think I could handle that easier.
Thinking of those of my gay friends who are/were likely to form civil parnerships, I'd turn one down for other reasons than his sexuality (too much scope for falling out) but cheerfully shoot the other were it not for the fact that after she broke up with her last girlfriend she married a man (several years ago).
This, to me, is why this thread is interesting even if (as I suspect) the original story is not true. It has made me, and perhaps a few others, think hard about what they will and will not, and can and cannot, and prefer to or prefer not to, photograph. Also about the similarities between photography and another business (let us say, a bar) where the 'product' is not as personalized: serving someone a drink is different (it seems to me) from taking their picture.
Cheers,
Roger