As I read through this thread, I realized that since I started making photographs forty years ago, I have never cleaned an SLR mirror. And none of the cameras I own have ever had their mirrors cleaned, as far as I know. They can be quite dusty, and still transmit all the light that they need to do make your camera's focusing system function.
If you really must, I would wet a brand new lens cleaning cloth with your cleaner of choice and drag it across the front surface mirror with NO pressure behind it. QTips are too abrasive in my opinion. Better yet. See if you can convince yourself to ignore the crap on your mirror and just take pictures.