Ex Girl Friends Ex Boy Friends

Slumgullion said:
This has been a pleasant thread to lurk. The overall age of this forum is slightly older than me. It's always nice to read others' wisdom and experiences - whether it be photography related, or otherwise.

Here is an ex of mine from nearly 20 years ago. She would've been 46 yesterday, but passed a few weeks back from cancer. She taught me how to use a camera and develop film, which has been a passion of mine ever since.

JHF01266 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr

JHF01496 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr
(with a Sweeney-fied J-3)

JHF01348 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr
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In the third photo - the camera looks like a Nikkormat.

The lady knew her gear. Good one!!
 
ME - Sitting Serenely by Archiver, on Flickr

Pentax ME | Pentax SMC M 50mm f1.4 | Fuji XTRA400 | Alfred Nicholas Gardens, Sherbrooke, 2008

Another photo of a place related to a person. One of our early dates was at a wonderful gardens in the mountains of southeastern Victoria, in a suburb called Sherbrooke. Alfred Nicholas Gardens is a vast public garden that used to be part of a historic estate, filled with trees, water features and walking paths. On a cool autumn day, we packed a picnic basket loaded with blue vein cheese and ham rolls and ginger beer, and spread out a blanket on the paving of the gazebo. We regaled each other of stories from our pasts while birds sang in the forest around us. Those were part of the good times.
 
I was married for 38 years, and I knew my wife for five before we married. Three of those I was in the Army. So it was a 43 year experience.

Other than that here are the four who got to me. The first got a BA at Antioch, and Ph D at Yale and an MD at Harvard where she taught and practiced. Her web page had four or five rows of insurances she would accept. And knowing Masha, if you did not have insurance she would work something out because that's who she was. She spoke English, French, German, Russian and Yiddish and was a pretty good kisser. She was a doll, and with a "nice glass tea" and her, life was a dream.The finest woman I have ever met.

After leaving my wife there were these three honeys, Britt-Marie from Stockholm, Carol from Astoria, and Judy from Princeton. Carol, as you may deduce from the pic, had zero impulse control and died by her own hand about 10 years ago. Britt is still alive and unhappy in Mexico where I met her and Judy is slipping into dementia in an elder care facility near Portland, OR. They all had their charms. But Masha is at the head of the pack after all these years.

That's it, that's the list, they all charmed me at one time and made my life better for periods when we were together. All relationships end badly: someone dies or leaves. But before that happens there is great joy.

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boojum said:
At the end-up it is the eyes which demolish our last line of defense. Do you think they know? ROTFLMAO Guys are just so easily led.
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Exactly right. The eyes are like drowning in a pool. We guys are so easily led but without that instinct the human race would still be................well, we probably would not be anything, we would have died out. 😳
 
boojum said:
After leaving my wife there were these three honeys, Britt-Marie from Stockholm, Carol from Astoria, and Judy from Princeton. Carol, as you may deduce from the pic, had zero impulse control and died by her own hand about 10 years ago. Britt is still alive and unhappy in Mexico where I met her and Judy is slipping into dementia in an elder care facility near Portland, OR. They all had their charms. But Masha is at the head of the pack after all these years.

That's it, that's the list, they all charmed me at one time and made my life better for periods when we were together. All relationships end badly: someone dies or leaves. But before that happens there is great joy.
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Sooooo the underlying factor in all of these women was... you? 😉

The way I see it, there will only be one 'ever after' relationship, because all the others will end in one way or another. We take the best of what was and carry it forward into the future.
 
Archiver said:
Sooooo the underlying factor in all of these women was... you? 😉

The way I see it, there will only be one 'ever after' relationship, because all the others will end in one way or another. We take the best of what was and carry it forward into the future.
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It was always two of us. These women all had something, or some things, that were fabulous. But Masha and Carol had the smarts. They were both brilliant. But Carol was chaos. There is an expression in German my grandmother used, "She is like the cow that gives good milk and then kicks over the pail." So it was. I was very hard to walk away from someone so smart and so beautiful and I did it often before I finally got it right. Carol had a great mind and as the movie, A Bronx Tale, explains, wasted talent is the saddest thing in life.

I am grateful for all these women, and a few others, but Masha will always be "the one." If there is a God and there is a Heaven and if I get to go, Masha will be there with a large cup of tea with strawberry jam stirred into it and some seedless rye with sweet butter. We will sit and talk. I could ask for no more.
 
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I hope it's okay to share a perspective here. I find aspects of this thread a bit concerning, particularly regarding personal privacy. While sharing a portrait is generally fine; provided the person depicted has given clear consent, explicitly identifying someone as an “ex” can cross a line and may come across as intrusive or disrespectful, even if unintentionally so.

I absolutely understand that this may have been shared in good faith and without any harmful intent. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but I did feel it was important to express this viewpoint.
 
Ray Kilby said:
I hope it's okay to share a perspective here. I find aspects of this thread a bit concerning, particularly regarding personal privacy. While sharing a portrait is generally fine; provided the person depicted has given clear consent, explicitly identifying someone as an “ex” can cross a line and may come across as intrusive or disrespectful, even if unintentionally so.

I absolutely understand that this may have been shared in good faith and without any harmful intent. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but I did feel it was important to express this viewpoint.
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I appreciate your concern and if you are concerned about the nude of Carol, well, I can assure you that flagrant public displays of nudity and near nudity were a pleasure for her. As I stated and will state again she had zero impulse control. Knowing her as I did she would been thrilled to see her image posted. But, again, you may know more about this than I. As for nudity in general, I do not find it shameful in this instance or in most. She had a great figure and liked to show it off. I have a great Conti crayon of her nude, also. I did not do the Conti crayon. It was done when she was posing nude often for art classes at the junior college. She was an exhibitionist. That is as far as I would care to go on this.

I hope this eases your concerns.
 
boojum said:
I appreciate your concern and if you are concerned about the nude of Carol, well, I can assure you that flagrant public displays of nudity and near nudity were a pleasure for her. As I stated and will state again she had zero impulse control. Knowing her as I did she would been thrilled to see her image posted. But, again, you may know more about this than I. As for nudity in general, I do not find it shameful in this instance or in most. She had a great figure and liked to show it off. I have a great Conti crayon of her nude, also. I did not do the Conti crayon. It was done when she was posing nude often for art classes at the junior college. She was an exhibitionist. That is as far as I would care to go on this.

I hope this eases your concerns.
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Hi Boojum, it's nothing about nudity, and the comment was not directed at you at all, I didn't even see your thread or your image, but it the post in general. There are some legal issues around this, but didn't want to appear 'heavy' Please forgive any comment that you were concerned about, it was not my intention at all.
 
Archiver said:
ME - Sitting Serenely by Archiver, on Flickr

Pentax ME | Pentax SMC M 50mm f1.4 | Fuji XTRA400 | Alfred Nicholas Gardens, Sherbrooke, 2008

Another photo of a place related to a person. One of our early dates was at a wonderful gardens in the mountains of southeastern Victoria, in a suburb called Sherbrooke. Alfred Nicholas Gardens is a vast public garden that used to be part of a historic estate, filled with trees, water features and walking paths. On a cool autumn day, we packed a picnic basket loaded with blue vein cheese and ham rolls and ginger beer, and spread out a blanket on the paving of the gazebo. We regaled each other of stories from our pasts while birds sang in the forest around us. Those were part of the good times.
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More memories. Almost forty years ago. Way, way back (in 1986, I think, so prehysteric if not entirely prehistoric times) I took my then-new Leica M2 with a 50/2.8 Elmar to this place, to test it out with its first-ever roll of Kodachrome.

With that beaut camera and lens I took some of the best images I've made.

So yes, memories. The SO I was with then is long gone, but this happens. Otherwise, the only main difference is we ate a pack of Italian deli goodies from King and Godfrey's in Lygon Street, Carlton, and shared a bottle of Pyrenees red and not ginger beer. I later drove us back home feeling no pain, as we did back then.

The rest is mostly the same.

I want to return to Sherbrooke later this year, with my current (since 1997, so the best-last one ever) SO. With my iig and 50/3.5 Elmar and maybe a Contax G1 with the 28/2.8 Biogon. To relive a few magic moments of Ye Goode Olden Dayz.

So good to again realise many good small things in a lifetime don't change.

But I wish I still had that M2/Elmar combo...
 
Slumgullion said:
This has been a pleasant thread to lurk. The overall age of this forum is slightly older than me. It's always nice to read others' wisdom and experiences - whether it be photography related, or otherwise.

Here is an ex of mine from nearly 20 years ago. She would've been 46 yesterday, but passed a few weeks back from cancer. She taught me how to use a camera and develop film, which has been a passion of mine ever since.

JHF01266 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr

JHF01496 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr
(with a Sweeney-fied J-3)

JHF01348 by Jim Fischer, on Flickr
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Powerful! Thanks for sharing.
 
Isobel At Cheltenham by Derek Kreindler, on Flickr

My first love and one of the first photos I took on colour film. When we decided for the final time that we could not be together, we were both scrapping away in the post '08 economy in stable but lower-end jobs, making enough to get by, but not much more. A year later, my professional life took off on an incredible trajectory, and I don't know if that would have happened had we ended up together. We both ended up happily married and financially comfortable, and we remain in touch. I smile when I see her photos with her young family.

Untitled by Derek Kreindler, on Flickr

My wife, who hates posing for photos as much as she supports me spending money on old cameras, lenses and film.
 
Untitled by Derek Kreindler, on Flickr

We met when we were kids - my younger brother was having a house party and I gave her a ride home when she had trouble getting a cab. I thought she was cute, but forgot about her. We reconnected 15 years later by chance - I didn't recognize her until she asked "are you ___'s brother?", and then it all came rushing back to me. The day of our first date, there was a national cell phone outage, and I couldn't get in touch with her to confirm if we were still on, but I showed up at the bar we agreed to meet at, and she arrived a few minutes afterwards. We spent a summer together right as the Covid lockdowns began to recede, experiencing the first taste of normalcy in 2 years. And then it ended just as quickly as it started. I was upset for a while...and then I met my wife!

Oh ya, I also found a Olympus Mju II in a junk shop for $5, and shot this photo of her with it.
 
Timmyjoe said:
Digging thru boxes today. Found more pics that I thought were lost.

My first serious girlfriend, in college, we were both figure skaters, a long time ago.

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Best,
-Tim
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Ah, the 1970s. Way back when we guys all wanted to look like Mark Spitz.

Nice looking lady. Still a contemporary looker. Many nice gals today still go for that style. Good one.
 
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