I pretty much agree with Aaron that eBay is not really set up to efficiently (not to mention fairly) settle disputes. But I also see Stephen's point. Since RFF is now owned by a retail entity that is both a competitor to and a customer of eBay, one has to be careful not to give even the appearance of conflict and defamation.
And Stephen's point about rumour-mongering is a great one. Here's a little (but long!) story...
On 12/21/06 I placed a small order through a retail website. I won't mention the company, but it's one that a lot of folks here would recognize. Total purchase was $16.49, so not a lot of money. I used PayPal, with funds drawn from my bank account as the source.
By early January I hadn't received my order, so on 1/06 I forwarded my PayPal receipt to the email address of the retailer, and a request for status. No response. I waited and forwarded the receipt again on 1/26. Still no response.
I forgot about it for awhile, then yesterday I tried to register a dispute with PayPal. PayPal's automated online system stated that the dispute wasn't allowed, but there was no explanation as to why.
Next I tried to call the customer service number listed on PayPal for the retailer. I got a "number has been disconnected" recording. Oh crap.
Next I did a reverse phone number look-up, and found the name and address of the person attached to the disconnected number. (Naturally, I won't post that here.) Not that it gave me much information other than an address; and my source (whitepages.com) isn't authoritative anyway.
So, I called PayPal, and went through their IVR hell. I finally said "representative" to the voice response unit, and got an agent on the phone within a few minutes, a woman with a strong Caribbean accent... as if that matters. She stated the reason for the dispute not being allowed was that the transaction was more than 45 days old. However, she stated that she would submit a "courtesy refund" from PayPal. She didn't know if it would be allowed, and that these types of refunds are processed once a week, so I might not know until sometime next week.
Next I went to DNSSTUFF.COM and did a whois lookup for the website. Interesting. The actual business name (the website name is a DBA) matched the PayPal vendor listing, but the name and phone number was different from the PayPal listing and my reverse phone lookup. So, I called the phone number. I asked for the person listed as the contact from Whois. The person who answered identified themselves as the spouse, and that the spouse wasn't there but they could take a message for them.
I explained why I was calling, and was informed that there were a couple of orders in December that were lost. He took my information and stated they would send out the order to me. There are still a couple of questions in my mind ... i.e., why weren't my emails answered, and why didn't the person with whom I spoke ask for any details as to my order?
In any event, I am going to trust this will get resolved. Initially I thought of posting on RFF to see if anyone had any bad experiences lately with this retailer, as they had had a great reputation and so I was puzzled.
But I also remembered some of the previous posts about "scams" here and how more than a couple had been resolved because there were misunderstandigs, simple mistakes, etc., that could be rectified by persistence and patience. The RFF threads had caused more heat than light, and feelings were unnecessarily hurt.
Sorry for the long-winded story, but this is why I agree with Stephen's position.
Oh, and if I get a "courtesy refund" from PayPal, I'll keep it for my trouble or maybe just buy a Gordy strap, soft release or something. 😀