peterm1
Veteran
Sneaky has never been mean to me, but I have seen him go from being very loving to me to instantly grabbing and murdering some small animal just for fun, then back to being sweet after it is dead. He's racked up quite the kill count.
I would not exactly say my cat is mean to me. When she goes into "attack mode" with me she always holds back a little - I do not think she is ever trying to hurt me deliberately but sometimes underestimates what her teeth can do.
If I had to characterize it, I would say that she is behaving exactly like one kitten playing with another kitten when the play turns momentarily rougher than either of them counted on. Its how kittens learn to be cats. That is, learn to be predators.
This seems to be partly what my cat is up to. When I first met her she was still a baby - too young to be taken from the litter. She was shy and nervous and in fact frightened of every thing, while her brothers and sisters were boisterous and confident. She was, I suppose, the runt of the litter.
Which is why I picked her. It took years of handling for her to lose this characteristic (though its still there a bit) - lots of love, lots of handling and some rough house play initiated by me to teach her that she was never going to be harmed by me and that she could respond similarly in her play with me. It was my way of building her confidence. So she is permitted to rough-house me in reply. And that's OK. Also its something I think being the runt of the litter she never really had the chance to learn properly as a baby. But I view it as a natural part of being a cat and she deserves to have that perfectly natural cat behavior permitted her. Cats gotta be cats........and as long as 95% of the time she is her loving affectionate and talkative self (and boy can she talk) I am happy to suffer the occasional over enthusiastic bite because I know she really loves me as much as I love her.
