Roger Hicks
Veteran
Clearly you know NOTHING about me to say what I do and dont know. And speaking of depression - if a seller was not "depressed" enough to list the items, communicate enough to receive a payment and only THAN got so "depressed" so he couldnt ship the items - tells me that he is a scammer or at the very least irresponsible person I'd never deal with. Not something I'd classify as a depression.
You are quite right. I only know you from what you say. And what you said demonstrates that you know nothing about depression. All right, I'll modify that. Little or nothing.
Depression varies in intensity and duration and is not uncommonly 'mirrored' by unreasonable elation: what used to be called 'manic depression' and is now called 'bipolar disorder'.
I did not say that he was depressed. I simply said that was a possible, reasonable explanation. Your choosing to reject any possibility of a reasonable explanation, and to react aggressively to both the seller and to me, is your privilege.
Personally I'd rather take Brian's view (Climbing Vine).
Tashi delek,
Roger
Dave Wilkinson
Veteran
Six weeks ago, late on a Sunday night, I suffered a heart attack and was rushed into hospital, two hours before that a gentleman here in the UK had Paypalled me for a Leitz lens that I had on Ebay, and I promised to despatch it next morning. I woke on Monday morning covered in wires and tubes, and realized I would not be able to keep my promise. After visiting time, my wife emailed said gent, and explained what had happened, he was most understanding, saying that should be the last thing on our minds, and not to worry at all. She posted the lens three days later, and he replied - expressing delight! - I'm still in good shape, and so is my 100% pos. feedback!
Cheers, Dave
Cheers, Dave
xayraa33
rangefinder user and fancier
The seller is unreliable to deal with.
He has the buyer's money, an email or a PM could have cleared any personal problems he is having getting to the post office in this length of time.
Short of him being incarcerated, kidnapped, hospitalized, or dead.. there is no excuse.
climbing_vine
Well-known
"Unreliable" can mean a lot of things. Why not call a ***** a ***** (because painting things in extremes is more fun, I'm sure). "He can take a long time to ship but so far he hasn't stolen anyone's money" sounds a lot less exciting and a lot more accurate.
Distasteful bull****, but I won't argue the point here anymore.
astroman
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So why does he not respond to the buyer or leave a message here?
His name is getting trashed here on the forum you think he would want to clear this up.
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tbarker13
shooter of stuff
You paid him, so the money most likely would have gone into his bank account. Paypal will pull that money back out of his account if the dispute escalates to that point.
Obviously, he won't be able to prove the kit was delivered to you. So you'll win the dispute. Of course, once Paypal threatens action, he may finally be spurred to action.
Don't you just love sellers who want quick payment, but then take forever to ship the item they sold?
Dave Wilkinson
Veteran
Situations can alter drastically very quickly, and not everyone has an efficient partner around to deal with things!.Six weeks ago, late on a Sunday night, I suffered a heart attack and was rushed into hospital, two hours before that a gentleman here in the UK had Paypalled me for a Leitz lens that I had on Ebay, and I promised to despatch it next morning. I woke on Monday morning covered in wires and tubes, and realized I would not be able to keep my promise. After visiting time, my wife emailed said gent, and explained what had happened, he was most understanding, saying that should be the last thing on our minds, and not to worry at all. She posted the lens three days later, and he replied - expressing delight! - I'm still in good shape, and so is my 100% pos. feedback!
Cheers, Dave
JayC
5 kids,3 dogs,only 1 wife
Did everyone miss this post from page 2? It seems that all this talk of car accidents, depression, heart attacks does not fit this particular situation.
Roger Hicks
Veteran
Dear Brian
I completely agree. 'Scammer' (= 'thief') is a very different animal from 'unreliable' or even 'hopelessly unreliable'.
What I find really unpleasant is the way that the OP asked a balanced question; received broadly the same advice from most people ('Contact Paypal, and name him if things don't work out'); and unwittingly unleashed a combination witch-hunt and lynch mob.
Tashi delek,
Roger
xayraa33
rangefinder user and fancier
If as you say, he hasn't stolen anyone's money, but is not willing to close the transaction in reasonable time , and does not give a tracking number and stops communicating with the buyer. then he is unreliable as a seller.
So when he feels like it, he might , just might get to the post office and mail the parcel the buyer has paid for and is waiting for.
Yeah, sounds fair to me, this absolves him of any wrong doing.
Maybe he is on a power trip to irritate an innocent person, the buyer.
He obviously does not care about his own reputation.
Paul T.
Veteran
Yes. WHich is why the OP should post a PayPal claim.
I would share the OP's frustration, but I don't see how launching a feeding frenzy helps. A vendor can be slow, irritating, a bit useless, but that doesn't make them a scammer. A PayPal claim is preferable to ensuring that a poster is hounded out of rff.
I;ve always posted within a couple of days - but as i mentioned, my last deal at rff I had to wait 13 days before the item was posted. I didn't get annoyed. Was i being too easy-going, Subhash???
Dave Wilkinson
Veteran
Yes, the word was YESTERDAY!..I was on line, and posting pictures 'YESTERDAY', then was suddenly taken out for over a week!
Dave.
I think the sellers should actually send the items and give me 3 weeks to pay.
Is this the ad in question?
http://www.rangefinderforum.com/photopost-classifieds/showproduct.php?product=15387
This wording is what would concern me:
"I've run into some rough times lately and need to raise some money ASAP, hopefully this will be sold by the end of the day."
Doesn't look like depression, looks like a cash flow problem.
Is this the ad in question?
http://www.rangefinderforum.com/photopost-classifieds/showproduct.php?product=15387
This wording is what would concern me:
"I've run into some rough times lately and need to raise some money ASAP, hopefully this will be sold by the end of the day."
Doesn't look like depression, looks like a cash flow problem.
Dave, all the best on your recovery! Looks like you didn't miss a beat here on RFF, no pun intended.
Dave Wilkinson
Veteran
Yes - I've allways been pretty fit, and it helped!, my wife's a nurse and realized that speed was important, helped the paramedics get the 'clot busters' into me!.....sometimes I think some 'clot busters' are needed around here!Dave, all the best on your recovery! Looks like you didn't miss a beat here on RFF, no pun intended.
Dave
photogdave
Shops local
When you get the camera it's gonna stink like cigarette smoke anyway!
photogdave
Shops local
Wow! Glad you're okay. Take care of yourself!
OurManInTangier
An Undesirable
Bad news and a terrible time for both you and your wife, I sincerely hope that you're feeling better now and have lost all the wiring!
pevelg
Well-known
This has nothing to do with seller in question, just a thought I wanted to post.
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Roger Hicks is very correct when talking about depression. I work in a mental health facility as a registered nurse and it is very sad how debilitating the disease can be. It can be pretty upsetting to hear others make light of the situation.
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And no, this is not the first time this seller had scam labeled on him. While in my experience I received item, about one week after it should have arrived (so about 2 weeks since paypal payment), another member states that item was never received. Here is the link from a previous thread talking about a similar incidence.
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Roger Hicks is very correct when talking about depression. I work in a mental health facility as a registered nurse and it is very sad how debilitating the disease can be. It can be pretty upsetting to hear others make light of the situation.
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And no, this is not the first time this seller had scam labeled on him. While in my experience I received item, about one week after it should have arrived (so about 2 weeks since paypal payment), another member states that item was never received. Here is the link from a previous thread talking about a similar incidence.
anabasis
Established
There is no negative feedback on the seller's RFF profile. You might want to do that as well.
The words "slacker" and "indifferent" are on his Flickr profile, I'd be automatically wary of anyone who describes themselves as such.
Glad you got early treatment Dave, hope you are feeling better.
JCA
The words "slacker" and "indifferent" are on his Flickr profile, I'd be automatically wary of anyone who describes themselves as such.
Glad you got early treatment Dave, hope you are feeling better.
JCA
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